By Kristi Stone Hamrick
Wednesday, July 19, 2017
For those who have followed George R. R. Martin’s “Game
of Thrones” from printed word to HBO powerhouse, the characters now have the
status of family and obsession. The faithful have followed the conflicts
through bloody feuds, endless war, frustrated love, unexpected death, and
crushing evil, now choosing sides.
The question of who will sit uneasily on the throne once
held by Robert Baratheon makes excellent conversation as you consider the size
of armies, dragons, and magic that make the players compelling. What no one
seems to talk about, however, is that almost all the top contenders for the
crown are women. Perhaps because it doesn’t matter.
There’s no need to claim “I’m with Her” to force a
loyalty to any one leader based solely on sex. The women poised to fight for
the throne are complex, strong women, mothers (even of dragons) who are not at
war with their bodies or the demands of work and family. They stand side by
side with equally strong men and fight in the battle common to all people: the
struggle to take one’s place in the world and to build something that is your
unique vision.
Women Who
Exemplify Feminine Power
If you’re looking for women who exemplify feminine power,
look no further than “Game of Thrones,” now underway with a new season of
intrigue. Cersei Lannister sits on the Iron Throne, ruthless, driven by grief
for her lost children and ambition that empowered her to get past a father who
did not see her strengths and a drunken husband who ignored her at his peril.
Ellaria Sand holds the throne in the island nation of
Dorne, driven for vengeance against those who took the man she loved and lost,
the father of her children, warrior daughters who could inspire Amazons. Yara
Greyjoy fights for the Iron Islands throne, supported by her brother Theon, who
lost his way but not his commitment to family.
And of course Daenerys Targaryen, the mother of dragons,
is crossing the sea to Westeros. She has a claim to the throne by blood, but
also by tenacity, fearlessness, and fire. Her love for her husband, lost along
with her first child, led to a palpable grief that fueled her commitment to be
the leader his people needed. But she also seized control of all the Dothraki
by being a better leader than the men who held power.
Other characters stand strong as well. The fiercest
assassin in the land is a woman, the bitter Arya, who brought vengeance against
the man who slaughtered most in her family. Brienne of Tarth is now the
greatest swordsman. Others women have brought men back from the dead, fought in
great battles, and schemed successfully for more power.
Only one man truly holds a throne right now: Jon Snow,
who is the king of the North because of his accomplishments in battle as well
as his strong, steady, and selfless leadership. Although Euron Greyjoy has a
seat in the Iron Islands, having killed his own brother, his time on earth
seems short as Daenerys’ army sails with his niece and nephew, promising a
death sentence for him.
It’s About
Strength, Not Sex
None of the remaining contenders for power is supported
by virtue of being male or female. They have forged alliances based on diverse
needs and seek to execute a vision with ruthless intensity. These women’s
talents and drive makes them compelling. They are not threatened by motherhood
or diminished by it. It empowers them, gives fury and force to their efforts.
They show no angst as they make relationships and consider alliances.
The feeble feminism of today that makes everything about
the battle of the sexes sells women short by separating us from the powerful
truth that “two are better than one.” Such isolationist attitudes create the
impression of a crippled underclass incapable of multi-tasking as though the
only choice is career or family, but not both. And attributing every failure to
sexist attitudes ignores the reality that sometimes people—even women—make
mistakes.
Martin may be the ultimate feminist today. He has created
a world in which women advance to the throne because they have the right, the
talent, and the drive to win. Their lives are made richer by relationships and
family, though sometimes such things lead to great pain and sacrifice. That is
the kind of fierce feminism I want to teach to my two daughters, and those are
the kinds of capable feminists I want my two sons to marry.
I am “with her” on the “Game of Thrones” (sorry, Jon
Snow). May the best person win.
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